Make her live up to a dating ideal

Qualifying a woman is a game tactic that has been discussed by many of the credible game authors, and is something that should be in your arsenal of basic game tactics.

Qualification is of utmost importance because it’s not only powerful, but simple in it’s effect. Get the woman to qualify herself, and not only will she take your qualifying of her as a sign that you have options (pre-selection), but psychologically she will begin to feel as though you must be worthy of her attention and affection if she indeed goes ahead and qualifies herself, and she will if you are slick.

That because it’s engrained within human psychology to feel that something we work for MUST be valuable for the simple fact that we have put work in to achieve it, and qualifying yourself for something or to someone is putting in work to achieve it.

You know those sappy sayings about “anything great is worth fighting for”? Yea…not quite. Our psychology dictates that we subjectively interpret that the things we work for the hardest to be of the greatest worth. That’s why you make her work for it before she even knows if she wants it, because soon her psychology will take over and she WILL want it, even if she didn’t (or hadn’t made up her mind yet).

The opposite of qualifying a girl is a trap that most unenlightened men fall in to when they chase a girl. Tomassi writes,

[w]hen you think about it, it’s really a self-perpetuating cycle. Guy wants to qualify for girl’s intimacy, girl knows this, but isn’t attracted to the guy for the exact reason he is qualifying himself. Girl should be forthright with the “non-interest” guy, but still enjoys the attention and the affirmation that comes with it. Girl plays ‘friend’ and only becomes flirtatious when the attention flow breaks to reestablish it. Guy gets to make-or-break point, initiates intimacy and girl falls back on LJBF. Guy believes he still needs to qualify more and the cycle repeats.

The importance of resisting qualifying yourself, and qualifying her during pickup is a given, but a go a little bit deeper with your qualifications. Instead of the basic qualification methods that involve probing her about her abilities, qualities, or background (“can you cook?”, “would you say you’re a very feminine girl?”, “are you educated?” etc.), plant some deeper seeds of qualification within her psyche. You can plant these seeds in an indirect way that avoid the direct questioning that the simpler methods entail.

Mention things that will make her want to qualify on a long(er)-term basis:

If she asks about your ex(es), plant a seed for her qualifying her feminine nature or sexual abilities – “Things just didn’t work out between her and I. She really wasn’t right for me, aside from her feminine personality/aside from the great sex”.

You can formulate your qualifications in this manner instead of direct questioning, and you especially should do so if you want her to qualify herself through behaviours that you will find enjoyable in the long(er)-term, like cooking, submissiveness, blowjobs, frequency of sex, etc.

Using qualification in a more tactful manner will have just as much of an impact as a straight up question (“can you cook?” vs “I broke up with her because she couldn’t cook”), but will also leave a lasting impression because of the competition anxiety and dread inherent in the more tactful qualification.